During my session today, my client asked me to be honest about whether I actually thought it was possible for him to feel happier, reach his goals, and let go of a lot of the negative self-talk that has been so common for him. It was an easy question for me to answer, but it sparked me to think a great deal about myself as a therapist and my perspective. I certainly do see it as possible that this person could feel better if he continues to work. More than that, I see it as probable.
What I started to think about after the session was about how genuinely I do believe that people who are willing to work are going to see improvement. I think I wouldn't be a very good therapist if I felt otherwise. I was reminded today how important my function is in being a believer in the people that I see. Now, unless the person is mandated to attend, there is pretty much always some part that is at least hopeful that things can improve, otherwise, why even show up? But I, on the other hand, go beyond hope. I have confidence things can improve. My job is to find that confidence in my clients, build it, and be able to let it take the wheel.
I've been told by more than a few clients that it seems like I love what I do. And they're right. I realized today that a big part is that I love watching clients turn into believers for themselves and their futures. I understand how reasonable it can seem for people to turn to feeling hopeless, so I'm glad for all the opportunities I get to help challenge these thoughts.