I'm a firm believer that most of us could benefit from therapy at some point in our lives. Stress happens, changes come, relationships affect us - there are so many reasons why it can be invaluable to have a person that we can turn to for support, encouragement, and perspective.
Clients are different, and therapists are different. A good fit is important. I focus on trying to make sure my approach is empathic and proactive. This means that I prioritize making sure clients know they are genuinely cared about and to not just validate you by myself, but to try to build validation within yourself. I tend toward being active in my sessions, which means that there is usually some goal to work on between appointments. This could be challenging a common thought, practicing a relaxation skill, or trying a new form of communicating. These goals are client-dependent, and they are identified based on where you are in the moment. While I tend toward a more cognitive-behavioral approach, we also work on understanding and appropriately expressing emotions.
Therapy takes time, and it is also uncomfortable. Both of these factors are greatly influenced by the significance of what has occurred so far in your life. Therapy is also freeing and life-changing. I tell clients often that the biggest indicator that I regularly see for whether things will improve is if the client is motivated. You don't have to know what you want exactly, you don't have to know what you think you need to do, all you have to know is that you aren't happy enough currently, and that you want things to be better.
Karyn Dietz, LMHC, NCC 807 Ridge rd, Suite 206 Webster, NY 14580